I believe one major key is to think and rationalize both sides of the issue before acting/reacting. In other words, don't speak too soon. If you and I can learn to do this piece of self-control life will become much easier. As we will have a better understanding of the issue by thinking it out first. Rationalize your circumstances and then speak to your confronter with a better understanding. This allow you more control. Sometimes one must humble ones self and allow the other person/party to go off, vent, get it out! After all it is the other persons right and journey. Sure, your feelings might get hurt if you allow them to. But remember self confidence wont allow anothers words to harm you unless you give those words the power to do so.....
In allowing the other person to get out what he or she needs to, you have honored their right to think, say, feel, and do as they please, as long as you are not physically harmed. You do not have to agree with what this other party had to say. You just need to listen respectfully with a little understanding that your outcome will be much better this way. Better than yelling, fighting, cussing.....which cures NOTHING and sometimes because we as humans have different beliefs we must just agree to disagree. Two people can have different opinions or beliefs and still be friends or even a couple. That would be because both have self respect and you respect the rights with an understanding sometimes called empathy.
Hope this has been helpful. Til' next time, be well, be understanding. Compassion goes a long way.
Clutch
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